Dear Sex Witch: Bisexual Sex for Beginners
Q: Dear Sex Witch, I’m a bisexual woman, but so far I’ve only dated men. I really want to get out there and date some women, but I’ve never had queer sex, and I’m really nervous I’m not going to know what to do, or I’m going to be really bad at it. Help!
First of of all, congratulations on starting your same sex dating journey! It’s going to be filled with adventure, and maybe some mistakes, but that’s life! So….what can we do to make ourselves more confident having gay sex for the first time? Here are some suggestions:
Whether it’s your first time, or your thousandth time, you should approach new partners with an open mind and a lot of curiosity. Every single person needs something different sexually, so going into it like an enthusiastic scientist is your best bet. Ask them how they like to be touched, what kind of pressure or rhythm they like. Ask them if they want penetration (don’t assume), and how many fingers. Ask them if they like to make out a lot before you get heavier, or if they want to get straight to the hardcore stuff. Ask them to get out their favourite toy and show you how they like to use it…you get the picture :)
Before you get hot and heavy together, I suggest touching yourselves in front of each other. Then, watch how they touch themselves, and what brings them to orgasm. Again, you are being a sexy scientist full of curiosity! Then, when you finally come together, you have a road map of how to touch them.
There is this great online platform called OMGYES. They have compiled thousands upon thousands of people’s preferences for how they like their vulvas and vaginas to be touched, and have collated that data to give you clear and concise, shame free education on different ways to touch vulvas and vaginas. It’s a one time fee, not a subscription, and it’s a wealth of information. Highly recommend!
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